I met this guy and we instantly hit it off, went out for about a month everything was great we texted constantly throughout the day, everyday, then hed call me usually, everyday. i am still sad, but feeling much better. We want a great relationship. He told me he was starting to like me and didnt want to take things too fast (aka have sex too soon) which was refreshing to hear from a man for once. No being pushy, taking my time- getting to know someone before I rushed into a relationship. I know that will you understand my ways First he said I hardly had time to come on here (which I found odd but hes doing long shifts). No call, no text, no snapchat, nothing. We talked throughout the whole summer but did not start hanging out till September. I am in disbelief and disappointed. Sure enough the next morning I got a text that said what his boss said and that his focus wasnt on work but then he went on to say that I was amazing and I didnt do anything wrong and our time together has been great but too time consuming. He may have left you, dont let him take your dignity with him. ?IVE NEVER BEEN SO IN LOVE. Any thoughts please. It got to be that I was initiating all the text. If it ends, then its because it wasnt going anywhere. I was going to give him the holidays to get through whatever it might be that he was dealing with. Its not a simple ghosting act, its not a guy who lost interest and didnt know how to tell me, but rather a passive-agressive punishment and a manipulation. So quickly. I said no.. And we swapped numbers again. Please. Once I came back off holiday it was a month after the break up, I went to his to get closure because I wanted to know why he did it. But he did. I dont want him out of my life, but I am not ok with our current situation either. Lack of effort to contact him might have been the cause of his disappearance. He is even more beuatiful then I rememberd and we really clicked again and he laughed at my jokes and gave me twice like this really nice hug . I met a man on a dating site we hit it off right away. I dont know what I said or if ever Ive done something to him that he didnt like. Prayers for an mri that I have tomorrow. I told him how I felt when he gave me the silent treatment, he seemed to listen as it did stop. I dont know what people do in these cases. You could have said, I need someone more together. It will make him worry about what could cause your plans to be interrupted. I spent the night again. She probably doesnt see how this is such a turn off factor to you. If women went for men in their league this wont happen. Told him id contact him in the morning and I txte him a few times and no reply . If he cant give you what you want then maybe its best if he walks away and never comes back. Who knows anymore. Penpals can definitely be fun! Hes just 21 (going to turn 22 this year) so all i say myself is hes not mature enough or have the courtesy to let go in a nicer way. Keep in mind. Its not my problem. Also, men just arent as equipped to handle emotions and emotional situations as women are, so they avoid them. ), This exact same thing just happened to me to! Your guy broke-up with you and explained that he didnt want a relationship. I then was being goofy one night and had sent him a text thinking everything is grand and his response was who is this? Now here is my question Ladies and Gentlemen why when everything seemed to be fine and normal would he delete my number? Weve had numerous conversations about this. If shes feeling you no matter what youre going through what youve been through she wants to be there. He always dealt with issues straight on and if he had a problem he would address it and not afraid to tell me how he thinks about something. It sounds so similar to mine! This is exactly what happened to me but was worse Because he was a work colleague so I had to see him everyday, I think this makes him even more of a dirtbag. Then poof, no more coming to find me or sitting with me at break time. My cousin has the same issue. He also continued to go out and do things without inviting me, and the communication go less and less. He changed, he became mega flirty & wanting to always hang out, making plans to go on holiday, camping etc. At least you can stop wasting your time on him. I told him friends wont work, why dont I just give you space for like a week then well reconnect and see where things stand. I have deleted his number, deleted the messages and whats apps as i dont want to be stupid and text him at a moment of weakness. I feel like crap though. Whether thats the issue in your case or hes just plain playing games, I dont know. When I came back it was my birthday and he said he is busy that weekend and cant meet. I so desperately wanted closure, or more, and told him so. I messaged him via Facebook and politely said. I felt he spent the night thinking about me! We started communicating once again. For young people in their 20s, think if they behave like this when its just the two of you supposedly all hot for each other and they cant handle emotions or respect you properly, what will their melt down be like when real life happens, like being married, raising children, managing household finances, caring for your parents in their final years. I knew he had a problem with depression as he had been thru an episode a few months back and came out the other side ok. I recently met him off a dating site. we were both bored with our lives, we started talking about going on a trip together in asia.. im gonna pass on the details but the day before I was supposed to move back to my home country, and so 3 months before going to asia, I found out he had blocked me on social media (even though he kept texting me)..I was devastated and humiliated (I had to find an excuse when every kept asking me when r u going to asia again? For me, he is perfect. I know that is was not a normal relationship and we would not have been able to think about being together for a few years, as we were both still rearing children, and this is for the best in the long run, but the hurt I feel is overwhelming. So I messaged him on Facebook basically telling him to tell me right then what was going on and that I obviously still wanted him and could not take a hint so to tell me how he felt. Ghosting is a way of dealing with almost any problems. thanks for reading :). But he was articulate and sounded confused and I made the excuse of well, hes fresh out a relationship. Thought we were good! then she starts blowing up his phone, demanding answers, or when he finally reaches out shes snappy and cold instead of calm, cool and confident. I am a dude who admittedly has shied away from many relationships that were apparently working great. Its all the new norm and for those of us who were fortunate enough to have a wonderful upbringing (which is rare nowadays), then we can look at ourselves in the mirror and be thankful we cannot or will not stoop to such lowlife activities. Dont waste another minute thinking about him and dont text him again!! The next date was amazing to say the least. By the time, the woman reaches 30 hes had 100 men riding the c&CKK carousel. I hope you see this. Im not doing that just because I dont want to die alone, when I like someone I really want to be worthy to be with her, but I know that at some point Ill run out of my reserve, and it might be really painful to discover she doesnt like me anymore when that happens. Wed text for a bit and theyd want to meet up and such. we even both talked about what we wanted in our relationship . Insecure. I cant believe I was so You have had no physical intimacy for 3 out of the 4 years you have been dating? I just dont know how will I tell him. Like the absolute worst. Dont reach out to him.under any circumstances! Give her the same speech you wrote here. Its just not fair. But he was making plans to go for a trip the other weekend (But never mentioned that we are gonna celebrate my birthday). I want to be loved and cherish for the wonderful woman I am, not my ability to cook and procreate. If a relationship was deep enough, men owe us. We didnt end up meeting for dinner cas he also has a friend in the city and also cas he woke up around 11:30 pm so I suggested we can catch up tomorrow and he said his friends here anyways so that sounds better. Cmon. Ummm, nice. I really wish we all can be more honest to each otherI hope your feeling better now . We recommend writing a letter addressed to him in which you let out all your frustrations. So sorry this happened to you similar thing happened to me. NOW IT GETS CRAZY. (Question1of15). I just want to disappear out of his life to. So learn from this how to spot someone who may ghost: No reasons seen no red flags of it happening. Sunday came, did not hear from him. I mean come on, thou cant even call me? no more hello and cold response till i found out accidently on facebook ,another gal posting a pic of her and him in car , and she kissing his cheek. One of the easiest new connections Ive ever had. 7. He did disclose during the evening that he thought I was beautiful but that he had never thought of himself as particularly handsome (again.. insecurity? Although i still think the dignified nimber two individual should swallow the bitter pill and prode and be generous to tell the person they are dating what is up. I have been dating someone for one month maybe 6 dates. So glad I found this site today! But not him, nope he wanted to be left alone. Communicate With Confidence. So they ghost. After his seemingly perfect birthday weekend he told me he was done, he still cared, but he wanted to be alone for awhilethat it may make him appreciate me more. Im sure it felt real for him too, but if you let yourself make assumptions about it in real life (before meeting) you set yourself up to get hurt :(. He replies that he cant and hes sorry. That being said, yeah, the guy was a douche. Were still friends on FB (should I block/delete?!!) In his city instead but I will surprise him too and not give the actual date and he laughed and aid dont worry Ill be mentally prepared and make reservations. So stay true to yourself, stay true to your values, be assertive enough to stand up for those values, and thatll put you on the path to the relationship youve always wanted! I signed up for a week free trial for a dating website, not really expecting too much. And that is a narcissist or borderline personality disorder. His goal is to get you to do as he wants because thats the only way youll keep welcoming him back. Next day nothing. Thats it. Look, dont feel so bad. Since hes not doing well this probably is not a good time for him to be focused on a relationship. Ashley, its obvious you came on here to vent and you only wanted to hear what you wanted to hear. We are already on to the phone sex and I dont want a casual fling. And I wont. I just cant understand how someone can go from being sooo close and attached to you to just no contact and so dry. But he immediately suggested last Wed night and texted me at 5 pm on wed to make sure we could hang out. Mind you I am not a narcissist, I am a codependent nice guy/white knight. But it dawned on me that I am not over my ex and still have unresolved feelings so it is not fair to a new relationship to keep seeing someone or investing in it if I am not completely emotionally available. He replied almost straight away saying Yes of course. Dude, stop chasing this guy. But maybe not so dry lol I have sent similar messages to guys so they are not just waiting around. And yeah, thats disappointing but its not the be all, end all. At 4 pm I texted him hey r u alive? We had been dating for about 4 mos. Would you like to talk about this? Im almost wondering if it was the truth or if he used it as an excuse to disappear. Of and told me he has never met anyone like me and I was too good to be true but tjah he wants to settle Did I respond incorrectly? He didnt disclose of that until I had to ask him. Im sad because I truly just miss talking to him. Its hurts but just got to move on I guess. I do agree if they are your partner they should have the time and interest or move on but then you wouldnt be calling someone like that your partner.. He invited me to his place for dinner and movies. Im 20, and in college, so i am probably dealing with a typical douche on my end. He took pictures with me there, selfies and looked so happy and we held hands and walked a lot anyways we got back to All I can say is dont give your heart any more than you already have. I have dated countless people.. enough to aboid encounters with those personalities I know I wont have a depth of connection with. I have been dating a guy for 6 months, we met online, hes a truck driver. That just makes you look desperate. 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